The only way to deal with fear is to face it.
I watch some time ago on a you tube video where Sadhguru, Tolle and Mooji talk about fear. What is it, how is it manifested? Then did I look at a teacher at CIR, the school I attended, Tomislav Senečić, who surrendered to fear, the kinds of fear and how they were created?
I often talk about how bravery is the most important component in the transition from person to Man, but the fear is that many people are stifling their actions and even thinking. I never wrote how to get rid of fear, and I believe this is a topic that many people are interested in.
It is stupid to think that you wil, by reading this text, solve your fears, but I still think it will give a good insight and a roadmap where the solution lies. Many hours, sessions, papers and the like are spent in solving the fears and today’s mainstream ways are all but one failure, if you ask me. Psychology as a science that is basically dealing with this issue has not provided adequate answers or solutions, but let’s start from the beginning.
I will, for the purposes of this text, divide fear into two fundamentally categories. Real fear of life-threatening. The fear that occurs momentarily in crisis situations of war, traffic accident, drowning, falling from height, real physical to life-threatening situation. This fear occurs as an autonomous reaction and is completely natural for our current state of consciousness; it should not be seen as a problem in any way, so it is not necessary to treating it. It is true that these fears for the naked life of certain people can become panic, hysteria or some other condition in which the body is completely paralyzed or the mind is completely lost and this is a functional problem we are not going to talk about now.
The other fear that manifests itself as nervousness, anxiety, impatience, phobia, panic, jealousy, hatred and the like is important to this text. This fear is not stimulated by real life threatening but by conceived or subconscious scenario that does not happen in reality but is projecting in function to closer or further future. Something like “What would it be if it were?” These fears are not fears of bodily pain, a real injury. They are the suffering spoken by the Buddha or the body of pain mentioned by Eckhart Tolle. A suffering that is not real but manifests again in some way, we suffer.
Psychology takes the fear for serious. Fear is an enemy, treacherous, subtle who is to be beaten. Fears have some sort of cause for which they appear and this cause needs to be found and treated (heal). This job is long-lasting and difficult, and the causes of fear are often unrecognizable and annoyed.
On the other hand, great spiritual teachers of ultimate reach say that the fear is an illusion, a fata morgana that exists only in our minds. This radical/extreme insight is often completely incomprehensible and unacceptable to people, although this saying is often cited in “advanced” surroundings. How is the fear of illusion if I feel it and it appear quite often? This spiritual principle at this moment is much closer and clearer to me than ever before, although I have gone through both of these approaches. The spiritual superior parable is that there is nothing but consciousness, whatever it is called. Every form that consciousness takes is only a form that does not change the essence of consciousness. The shape or form that is changeable in its essence means nothing because form can’t maintain its shape if consciousness doesn’t want it. With this knowledge and deduction, I can conclude that fear in reality doesn’t exist as essence because it is not self-sufficient. Nobody ever went in the street and said, “wow, have a look, fear!” There is no fear if there is no one in fear. It must be tied to human consciousness or it will not be. Therefore, in the spiritual sense, and in every other one, the fearful person is superior to fear, for there was no fear without such a person. Reverse does not work because fear is not a virus that moves from one to the other and creates an epidemic, although the issue of virus is very tangible. Spirituality always emphasizes that power lies in responsibility and vice versa, which I have written here, so I am the one responsible for my condition and I am the only one able to change it.
I met a lot of people on psychotherapists trying to solve their fears. I myself participated in a few dozen groups and individual therapies. Therapies are great. They burden water, but they also bring great relief. Yet a definite solution in the sense of total liberation from fear rarely comes. People are able to overcome discomfort in some areas of life, free themselves, encouraging, but in some other things they remain what they are or are even worse. Full liberation from fear through standard psychological procedures and procedures as far as I know it has not been achieved.
Psychology observes fears but also other processes as a mathematical principle in which programs are taken consciously, subconsciously or in any other way if it exists. By such a mathematical principle, it is normal for a child whose parents are afraid of the snakes, also frighten of them, ie. child download energy forms from their parents. Does this mean, however, that a child can only deal with that fear only when a parent does the same? Of course not. Mathematically, psychology works, but life will never be mathematics, and the formula that will frame it into one system will never exist. The mathematician will be completely happy with the psychological solutions because it actually gives a kind of justification that says it’s completely normal that you are abnormal because what else you could be considering where you are and with whom you lived. Such a mother will bear me such as I die. Alibi.
How to now reconcile these contradictions between these two approaches. Most people do nothing about their fears, but they are either avoiding or buying their solution to the extent that can buy something like that. Avoid it using various methods, and most commonly are: eating processed foods, drinking carbonated drinks, coffee and alcohol, watching television, facebook, shopping, eating tablets and other opiates. Then exaggerated work, learning, sports, exhilarating sports and more…
Those people who want to catch up with fear are mostly doing it through various forms of therapy of either individual, group or mass character, mostly I mean religion as mass-therapy, because most people are religious because of fear for their life, fear of God, hell, punishment, authority… judge the effectiveness of these therapies yourself.
As for the spiritual approach to fear, it is impossible to implement it because there is no therapy that leads to a place where it is clear that the fear is illusion, so people have this kind of access strange because they do not have a mentor for this time. Given that I have experience and some knowledge of both “approaches” I will try to present a section in which these two “Approaches” become closer to each other.
Fear is an emotional reaction that occurs in the body mainly in the area between 1-5 chakra, but it can also be in the hands and feet. This energy-emotional expression can be reduced by consuming chemical substances of a large range from beer and brandy to cocaine and heroin.
In my book I have explained more extensively that emotion is a hormonal expression of certain thoughts/ideas. And in the series of “chemical enlightenment” I explained why really “I” do not depend of a chemical reaction, i.e. why a chemical reaction is a consequence of existence, not the other way round. Although drinking and eating is the most common form of concealment and burnout of emotional expressions of fear, it is totally ineffective if you are not constantly under sedatives but then there is a real danger of being completely separated from reality. In addition, in order to conceal fear, these sedatives need more and more, and then they begin to develop the disease so that they can say that the illness is an incarnation of fear, unexplained emotions or completely avoiding confrontation with the same.
There must be faith to be afraid. One who experienced fear in one moment, anxiously accepted that feeling as an integral part of itself, as a part of the essence of its being. It went away with it, identified and said: “ that I am”, that he/she is such that (the same as that). Imagine, waking up in the morning with your pajamas on yourself, and you do not remember being dressed. If you have never seen pajamas before, you can believe it is part of your body as well as skin, hands, feet, internal organs. In such an identification / belief, every fleece, holes, wrinkles, engraved pins on pajamas can be considered life-threatening and pajamas becomes a matter of vital importance with an inevitable dilemma: “Is there a life without pajamas and if so how to survive without it?”
Reasonable suggestions to remove pajamas because it is not the original, essentially important part of you is faced with great resistance, misunderstanding. The fear of removing pajamas is as big as the great faith in pajamas as a real element. The identity created by this faith is illusory being we call pajamas-man. As long as there are pajamas there is a fear of death. So the phrase “fear is illusion” to be better understood should be reformulated in: “The one who is in fear is an illusion, there is no, man-pajamas is unreal.”
For it is futile to fight the fear while believing in it. Death of identity is the death of fear. So my dear Mooji always strikes in the core when he asks the question: “Who is the one who is afraid, find him/her, look, bring him/her to the light!”
For this reason, man has no fear of the state because, man doesn’t believe in it. Only a citizen can be in fear and seek some legal therapy to get out of fear, so that his/her faith in citizenship and state is not scorned. “now way my friend!”
People (man) have no fear of the state because they don’t believe in it, do not identify with it, have no connection, so the state’s action does not affect it, so fear can’t occur. Wrong! Fear can occur, but man understands its unreality and doesn’t catch on the hook. If he/she gets caught accidentally he/she becomes a psychological person. A conscious man through his/her emptiness (by not identifying) spreads own consciousness and the tempting call of the shapes, figures, faces, persons, cheeks, masks affect him/her less and less until it completely stops. The vacuum cleaner salesman, after you hit the door in front of the nose ten times, will no longer disturbe you. I do not buy anything – shop closed.
This theme is easy to understand through the story of a monkey catching a banana fang in a hole in the wall. Then hunters appeared. The monkey is in great fear, but can’t get rid of it because the hand holding the banana is now too large and can’t get out of the narrow hole.
A citizen is a monkey who has caught a banana of the state, privileges, safeness, education, money, etc. The banana brings tax offices, police, courts, laws, harm-generating fear. The citizen would want to solve the fear of keeping the banana of the state.
Looking at this, it is clear that fear is generated by our identities, all of which are psychologically conditioned, i.e. exist only in our heads, about which I have already written and talked about. Then when it is “working” with fear it does not work with fear but with “craven”. The one that fear does not exist. But to discard what is in fear (loss of identity) generates even greater fear, so that most people prefer to live in fear than to give the banana of its 13-century dreams of Croat as warriors of Catholicism and other stories and myths that have never been checked today the greatest and most unquenchable truths.
We must also be aware that a citizen doesn’t like his/her country, so he/she likes it in conditional way. If state “gives” him/her what he/she needs, he/she loves, worries, defends. If it taken away something in any sense he/she doesn’t like it. Such conditional love (affection of interest) is immersed in the sea of fear that a person will realize or not his/her interest.
True love is the love of a man who has no identity, so there are no conditions for love. Such one likes everything. A man who is aware that citizenship is illusory loves all because nationalities are forms that have no essence. It can’t be compromised because it is not compromised. There is no fear.
This parabola with the citizen is so pretty plastic and visible to everyone. However, be aware that identification is hidden at much deeper levels that we may not even want to admit to ourselves. Because it is easy to let go of fish and champagne. But how to give up bread, milk, cakes, meat, water, and chocolates. We can’t live without it, however, can’t it? Actually, maybe it might, but then life would not make any sense, right?
How will we go without a road, health insurance, car, house, apartment, shop? If one can’t “live” without something, a connection is created, then an identity, and then the fear that we will not get or realize that without which we can’t, what identity demands.
I’ve been in, and I’m still dealing with psychology and spirituality, which is a broader category than psychology, so it is clear to me that through a modified type of therapy can affect the banana holding. Through my own processes of liberating from identity, experience tells me that it is possible to rid itself of all fears, not just one special one.
Since this page is about legal reality I will finish the text with this piece of illusion. As long as any person believes that can’t be without the state, without the legal system, laws, regulations, regulations, fear will inevitably be generated through that connection (identity). Avoiding, exterminating fear, and retaining identity is a tough, almost deadly job because it takes away a lot of time, energy and attention, and the results are said to be minimal. Freedom and fear do not go together. Man and person are incompatible. Existence and absence does not have touch points.
Most people do not see this obvious link between the person and the fear. Still, the problem is always dealt with at a deeper level. Given that a non-citizen state can never exist in the hierarchy of creation, the citizen is the foundation of the state, and hence it is a problem, not a state. The states will not be solved or repaired until we resolve the citizen within ourselves. When a citizen dies, a state dies, and the fear associated with this unnatural affair disintegrates.
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